Advice to my younger self

I’m 19. But I have travelled, moved away from home, lived, loved and learned a lot from many people who have passed through and stayed in my life. 19 is a young age and I have so many things to come. However, I do think that around your late teens to young twenties, this is one of the most poignant stages of your life, because ALOT of things happen. 

Recently I have come to a great realisation about many things, this is both letting go of silly thoughts and appreciating whats good.

I also have had a great understanding that a percentage of Notes La Mode’s readers are still in high school and may find this useful, (I sure would have!) If you’re past this stage, then what would you tell your younger self?

1. You are on a journey, this means change. Do not be frightened to let go of friends, hobbies or routine. As each year passes, you’ll notice a vast amount of change. This is normally a great thing, the more experiences, the more you are shaping you to be… you. 

2. Quality not quantity. I wish someone sat me down and preached this to me. I have always been so intrigued by people, fashion and many more things. It really is better to stick to a few things, that in the long run will be just as good when your 19. *cough, both friends and a fabulous hand bag that has lasted years. Call these investments.*

3. Do not follow crowds. The chances are the crowd that is deemed ‘popular’ will definitely not be the crowd you will want to associated with in a few years. Stick to you, stick to what you love and stick to your gut feeling. Do not be swayed but what society says is right.

4. Avoid people with closed minds! These people will always be around in every stage of your life. You really do not need this negativity. For me, people I know or ‘friends’ with closed minds actually hold you back. Working in the creative world opened minds are essential and for everyday life the most understanding. 

5. The place you grew up is small, the world is huge. Call this one, small town syndrome. Everyone knows everything and news spreads fast, but does that really matter. Gossip and rumours are only listened to by people who follow crowds or closed minds (See 3+4.)At the end of the day, the people who cause issues for you, will never leave this town. And one day you’ll be sitting on a beach in bali thinking why you were even bothered.

6. Appreciate where you’re from. So the last point was extremely negative, however you should appreciate the things you learn from where you grew up. I will never let small things from a small town taint my perception of my home town. Without those learning curves, you cannot be the ‘you’ today. Plus as soon as you move away you’ll suddenly appreciate the small things your local area has to offer, such as barely any traffic, natural beauty and family.

7. Friends come and go. The true ones will stick by your side and be loyal. Friends can define you as a person and you will learn so much from them. But do not be afraid to let go of a couple of bad fish. But remember to treasure those who care. 

8. Follow what you heart thinks. This can relate of situation, what you study or choose to do with your life. My passion for blogging, writing and fashion, was my ultimate goal. My head told me this is risky to pursue, a lot of criticism, a lot of work. Four years later, it’s life and I love it.  

9. What your parents say is actually right. From not taking a coat because your mum told you to do so, too hanging out with the wrong crowd too even what you take for A-Levels. Yes, they were right. A good thing to remember is everything you’re going to do, good chances are they have done it. (Even if they tell you they haven’t!)

10. Be humble and kind. Surround yourself by humble and kind people and do the same back. There is nothing worse than someone who isn’t these things. 

11. Get out of your comfort zone. You will learn so much more. Being comfortable will never teach you anything, push yourself to do things you never thought you will achieve. 

12. Take Photographs of everything. This may seem like a typical bloggers advice but it’s very important in your personal life. Keep snapping away with the camera, years will fly by and you’ll treasure those memories when you least expect it. 

13.  And remember..Success means hard work. All the small things will add up.